I Don't Want to Cry No More

Thursday, March 5, 2009




I was listening to Chris Brown's new song called Cry No More. I assuming it's his song cry after what's been going on. I have tried not to comment about what has been going on between them. I don't really want to speak on the alleged attack but I have been in a relationship that I knew was not healthy (let me say that I have never been abused by NO MAN). I have been in a situation where I thought I was in love with a man and could not picture myself without him. I have been in tht situation where I told myself that I was not taking it anymore but I found myself giving in when he cries or said, "baby I'm sorry." As women, we think or want to fix our men. We want to be the strength that can make him better. I've been there where it hurt like hell. That any/everything reminds you of him. That you would convince yourself that you would rather go through the hell with him than be without him. I made excuses for him. I conditioned my head to think that ALL MEN CHEAT. I told myself that if no one wants my man, why would I want him. I stayed at the gym, I made sure every time he saw me I looked my best. I tried to be THAT woman but nothing I did was never enough. And that dreadful day, HE LEFT ME. And it hurt like hell. My stupidity tried to fight to get him back. I called. I begged. I pleaded. He took me back eventually but to only treat me that much worse. It got to point that I felt disgusted with myself. Here other men wanted my attention but I kept taking this no good man back. One day it clicked. Maybe it's called growing up but only time healed my "broken heart." I am just glad that God brought a man that represents how I should be treated. I don't have to worry about what he does when I am not with him and I know that he loves me for me. We can all have opinion on what Rihanna should have done. That she should leave him. But we are not her. She has to go through this for herself and it go the point that enough is enough. Let's hope that happens sooner than later. I pray Chris gets the help he needs. There is no excuse to bring yourself that low to lay your hands on a woman. Never. It saddens me that his female fans are so blind to make excuses for him.


Chris Brown - "Cry No More"

4 comments:

Jeanette said...

It's funny you posted this because I was going to take to my blog tonight and address the issue. I may still do so. Anyway, I think it's sad that she is taking him back. Like you said, there is no excuse what so ever. I think that she will loose a lot of fans and a lot of respect for taking him back. I mean, realistically, a lot of young woman look up to her. It is not ok to be in a high position like she is and be setting that kind of an example. I read somewhere that Hilary Duff made a comment about it and said something to the effect of this " I wish her the best of luck but I do want to let girls out there know that it is not ok to be treated this way." I could not agree more. In my opinion, not only for her self but for her career, she shouldn't of taken him back. I think that was a bad call on her part.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter because I don't personally know her but it's fun to comment on these issues. :)

Jajababy said...

I just heard excerpts of what happened that night. And I am officially appalled. He needs jail time and needs to see psychiatrist. Part of saying your sorry is working on never doing what you did and you have to accept the punishment for your actions.

But I will look forward to seeing your post on the subject.

Anonymous said...

It's an unfortunate situation... There are plenty of good men for Rihanna out there but there seems to be something attractive about abusive personalities.

Jajababy said...

That's a really good point. I am not sure why a lot of women are attracted to "bad boys." I've been there done that. I now prefer to live a less stressful life with my "Mr. Nice Guy."

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